What have we done?

OK, so as you know Josh is now about 4 1/2. I have started to notice all the things I have done to make him "abnormal." For example, once when I was SUPER tired,  I tried to find my sisters house in Ann Arbor and of course got lost. ( I mean who the heck can find their through Ann Arbor if they don't lived there??)  I then called Jeff for help and because I was super tired I possibly overreacted. So now, any time we go somewhere Josh ALWAYS thinks we are lost and that something awful is going to happen. He tells me things like, "this isn't the way" or "where are we?" He gets terrified all the time that we are lost. We have also started our grill on fire (more than once) and so now Josh is scared of grilling, of boiling, of steaming, of anything with heat. Today I was boiling a whole chicken for chicken and dumplings and I had the lid on the pot, so steam was coming out of the steam hole. He ran into the bedroom where I was cleaning and almost in tears begged me to come and check on the chicken because it was smoking. He thinks all things with steam are on fire and any place he doesn't recognize means that we are lost forever. I have made my son afraid. I guess I really need to take Jeff's advice (when I was lost) and KEEP IT TOGETHER more, so that Josh can grow up secure in his travels and when people are cooking!